It’s 3:25am. I’m awake. Not because my Baby is in need of anything. We’ve actually been blessed with a baby that’s been sleeping a good 6-8 hours since around two months. I’m awake because. Just because.
I realized that I hadn’t written my “first blog post” and it was bothering me that I couldn’t figure out how to just delete it so I’m being OCD and filling it.
I can hear my husband snore from the living room through closed doors…
I wrote a parody of my current situation:
“Hello, futon, my old friend. I’ve come to sleep on you again. Because my husband’s loud, disturbing breathing is impeding my sleeping. And the noise that has reverberated in my brain, still remains…I seek the sound of silence… 😴🛋🛌“
Check out the blog post after this one for the true first blog post. Thanks for staying up with me 😘😘
More scrunchymomz adventures, personal stories, tips and tricks, and some fun DIY/upcycles to come! Talk soon!
I have some pretty meaningful content coming up. At least, it’s meaningful to me, but I like to think it will have something to offer you guys one way or another.
I’m going to be talking about body issues again, and about how although Mom’s groups are super helpful, they could also be making you depressed.
Those posts are currently in the works. I just want to make sure I have time to work on them. And that’s been harder to do lately.
In the meantime, I wanted to whip up a quick post from my phone so I don’t lose momentum.
Forgive me if this isn’t my best, I still have a DST hangover and the boys have not been sleeping that great 😑
So we just turned the clocks back an hour recently, which means it’s been getting darker much earlier. I always have a hard time this time of year.
My motivation plummets, I get more tired, and my anxiety and irritability increase.
A lot of people experience Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) when winter comes around. And it makes sense. Less daylight and more time confined indoors can take a toll on anyone’s happiness.
Strangely I love cloudy weather. I would be super happy if it was cloudy all of the time. Like if I could move to Seattle or London where it rains or mists all the time, I’d be elated! So it’s not so much the overcast and chill that bothers me, it’s the balding trees and darkness that does it for me, personally.
Anyway, I have noticed this seasonal shift starting to affect my parenting, which isn’t good. So I need to come up with a plan on how to stop it in its tracks.
Here’s what I plan to do, if you’re interested 😙
Take More Vitamins
A big contributor to seasonal depression is a decrease in vitamin D. According to this article, most people seem to be suffering from a lack of vitamin D, and a lot of those people are also suffering from Anxiety and Depression.
Coincidence? The science doesn’t seem to think so.
I used to be so much better about taking my vitamins. And not just D, but a multi vitamin and a mood balancer. And wouldn’t you know it, I felt better then. Not as great as I could, honestly, but a heck of a lot better! So I need to recapture that.
I plan on taking a vitamin D, multi vitamin, mood balancer, and magnesium supplement each morning.
Do More Crafts
I’ve really come to enjoy doing seasonal crafts with the boys as a way of decorating the house. I’ve also gotten more interested in making the home over with decor to match the upcoming holiday.
It makes it feel less suffocating to be home looking at blank walls all the time, and the boys get so much out of doing crafts together. It also helps take us away from too much screentime, which can contribute to mood and behavior problems in toddlers and children.
So at least a couple of times a week, I plan to take to Pinterest and do a few crafts with the boys.
Wake and Bake
I’ve been doing the Keto diet for a while now, so I’ve been missing out on a lot of my old favorite seasonal confections 😭
But I’ve noticed that when I do bake something, I feel accomplished. It’s so satisfying seeing something go from a recipe and separate ingredients to this whole sheet of cookies or a whole quiche.
Vinny also loves watching me and “helping,” so it’s a great way to spend time together and help him learn.
And I have since found so many delicious Keto friendly alternatives to thinks I love 😋
I plan on baking a few times a week to fill the house with the warmth and scents of festive confections to get us through cold days. 🥧
And one of these days I will get the measurements to all of the ingredients right 😂
Living toward the tippy tip of the northeast United States, it gets pretty cold for a pretty long time out of the year, which can make trips to the park sometimes impossible, or at least unpleasant.
But, we have no shortage of Malls in the area where I live, so if the boys (or myself) get cabin fever (which happens A LOT), we can get in the car and go to an indoor play area or take a lap or two around the galleria.
This way the boys get their ya-yas out, and I get some extra steps and exercise 🙌🏻
At least once a week, weather permitting, I plan to take the boys out to a different Mall, or local library event, etc in our area.
Work It Out
Chasing around two boys 2 and under counts a exercise, right?
But in all seriousness, getting a good and proper workout in is easier said than done with kids. But it’s so important for mental health.
What has been working out (pun intended lol sorry) for me is during nap times or meal times, I put on a HIIT workout video and follow it the best I can. I’ll do this a couple of times a day when I know I have at most 10 minutes before the boys need my attention, and on days where I don’t take them out on a walk.
I recommend Lucy Wyndham-Read or Blogilates on YouTube for some quick, fun, and dare I say effective workouts. I also really like the women behind the workouts, as they’re not snooty or pushy and actually fun to work out with. Though their bodies intimidate me, their virtual presence is actually nice.
I plan to do these workouts at least 3 times a week, and at least two videos a day.
These are just a few things I plan on doing to curb the SAD, as well as going to see my new counselor bi-weekly, trying to do more bible study, being mindful of what I eat, and making myself write more!
I think I may be starting to look forward to winter…maybe 😅
What sorts of things do you Mamas do to keep SAD at bay? Let us know in the comments! 💬
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As has been the case for a while, it’s been a minute. I’m working on updating more frequently for all of my dedicated follower (not a typo, just being self-deprecating, lol It’s out of my system now tho I’m good now lol).
So I had this whole post prepared about how my boys were sharing a room for a while and how it was going okay, and then recently we had to move the little one back into our room because he was waking the bigger one up and it was exacerbating his terrible two-ness.
Since we made the switch, Vinny’s behavior has gone from worst to just your average everyday 2-year-old. Which is still a little bit scary, but a hop, skip, and a quantum leap above how he was with fragmented sleep.
So basically what I’m telling you is, if you can, keep your infant in your room for as long as possible if you want a reasonable toddler/small kid. Invest in a bassinet that holds up to 30 pounds or get a nice pack n play and try rooming them together once they fall asleep and wake up at the same time for a while.
But, since it’s already written, I’ll include my post about how we made the transition and how we made it work for the short time that we did. Hopefully there’s something in here that might help someone!
Shortly after Mikey turned 4 months old, he moved into his big brother’s room. For some reason it was harder for me to let go this time, but I couldn’t pretend he wasn’t exceeding the weight limit of his bassinet for much longer…
The transition went fairly well. We decided to try sneaking the little one into the bedroom after the big one was asleep, and that seemed to work just fine. Vinny would either stir and fall back asleep, or not wake up at all, and Mikey is a pretty solid sleeper when he’s out for the night. It seemed to go off without a hitch…at first.
Most of the time Mikey will wake up between 5 and 6 to drink 8 ounces of formula. Usually either my husband or I will be able to sneak into the room, pluck the little one out of his crib, and take him to our room for a diaper change and feeding, and put him back into his crib for a couple more hours of sleep.
However, I don’t know if there is some sort of regression that happens around 7 months but lately he’s been waking at 2am for a feeding, as well as his usual early morning-cap. I guess we lucked out with the four month regression, so he’s just making up for lost time.
Now I had had read somewhere that if you have a toddler and a baby that you should put the baby to bed first so that the toddler doesn’t feel jealous. We all know that babies under 6 months (and some babies regardless of age) don’t give a bother about bedtimes. So in the beginning, to get Vinny to go to bed we would just pretend Mikey was going to bed as well and place him in his bassinet in our room.
However, since Mikey no longer fits in his bassinet, and he doesn’t fall asleep for the night until after a 10pm feeding, we don’t really have that option anymore. I suppose we could have pretended that Mikey is still going to bed in our room at the same time, but I didn’t have this thought until editing this just now so oh well.
But it really hasn’t been too hard to get Vinny to go to bed first anyway. He gets the room to himself for a while and he can play quietly with his stuffed animals without a little brother to try to yoink them away until he falls asleep.
I can’t promise that it will work that way for every toddler, but for us it’s been working fairly well.
(Editing note: Very recently Vinny has been having a little sleep trouble, night terrors and difficulty falling asleep, but we’re trying to troubleshoot…more on that later)
Now, for the room setup, I completely spaced taking any before pictures. #fail So I don’t have any basis for comparison, but the crib used to be where the bed is now, and there was a changing table that we recently got rid of where the crib is now, if that helps.
I really wanted to put Vinny in a toddler bed, and I found some frames for relatively cheap and in good condition on Facebook Marketplace. But, my Dad’s friend had sold us a great set of bunkbeds for dirt cheap and we had them in the garage, so after a long drawn-out debate, we ended up just using what we already had.
Getting Vinny to sleep in the bed didn’t take too much time. We got him used to sleeping in it for a week before we moved Mikey in. We had kept a guard on the side of the bed for a month or two before taking it down, and he now sleeps in a twin-sized bed on his own!
We use the top bunk for storage right now until we figure out how to get a little more organized. In the meantime, it makes a “cute” display for his animals.
We ended up moving most of the toys into the closet for the time being, as I was worried about Vinny throwing toys into the crib to become smother risks for Mikey. We do have a table and chairs for him, with some cardboard books for him to look through for quiet times and if he wakes up before everyone else.
We have an old baby monitor system under Mikey’s crib so we can hear him when he starts to fuss, so that we can retrieve him before he gets too loud and wakes Vinny up.
We also have a Wansview camera system to keep an eye on them. We got it for $30 on Mercari! It links up to an app on our phones so we can check on them without having to open the door and risk waking one of them up if they’re napping! We can also talk to them through the camera.
The camera works just fine, but at night it looks a little creepy, because the sensors look like little red eyes in the dark. We’ve tried a few different placements for it so that it doesn’t scare either of them.
So that’s how it’s been working for us so far. Hopefully we can move them back in together in a few more months. I’ll keep you posted!
But again, I definitely recommend keeping the baby with you for as long as possible! The only thing worse than a sleep-deprived Mama is a sleep-deprived toddler. Trust me on this.
How many of you Mamas have little ones sharing a room already? Anyone have any other tips? Let us know in the comments!
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