Back To Basics

Well hello!

Just needed to write something to fill in the void that has been my blog since my last post.

I actually have two and a half drafts saved, one of which I keep going back to and slowly editing. But I keep leaving it as a draft because I can’t get myself to be happy with it.

It’s also kind of hard to take time to write when I’m constantly having to stop one or both of the boys from getting into something.

And I’ll be honest, I’ve been feeling a bit burnt out lately. Mikey has been going through a sleep regression, Vinny and I have been doing a little better about navigating the terrible two’s, but when he has bad days, they’re BAD, both of our cars (one of which is new to us and we got it for more car space) have been having issues, I’ve been falling behind on the house, I’ve been falling behind on writing requests and projects, and the holidays and all that goes with it is just the cherry on top of my mental flat-lined-ness.


(I wrote a post last year on how not to stress around the holidays, so that’s not getting to me too too much, but it’s just that last little detail that needs attention, you know?)

On top of that, I’ve just been feeling a little discouraged when it comes to the blog. I hate to say it, but I’ve been kind of sad about how small my following still is on here and my social media. I feel sort of like I’ve flopped, I guess.

I know it can take a while to get a following, if you get one at all, and it takes a lot of work to do it the right way. And I know this is a saturated market these days, so I totally get that it’s easy to get lost in the crowd.

Sometimes I worry about my skills as a writer. I often feel like I’ve lost my touch after having kids. I worry that people don’t like what I put out, and that I’m no good at this, so sometimes I either get too self conscious or I just think, “why bother?”

If I could have ice cream and sugary drinks rn 😂😭

But then I think about those times I have gotten random comments on some of my older posts. The ones who have thanked me for writing about a certain topic, the ones who have told me that I have helped them through a struggle, the ones who have shared a laugh with me at some of the pratfalls of parenting.

Then I think about all of the times I’ve searched something on Pinterest and how that search led me to a blog post that got me through something, or gave me instructions for a fun activity for my boys, or just made me realize that I’m not alone in some things. I don’t think I commented on many of those, let alone thought to follow them at the time, so they have no way of knowing that they helped me–but they did.

So maybe, even though I don’t have many followers to show for it, I have made a difference for some Moms out there. Even if I feel like I’m not so good at this.

Why yes, as a matter of fact there is!

I started this blog for a few reasons: for fun, to help me through postpartum depression, to make sense of my experiences, to keep up my writing skills out of work, and to help other Moms–particularly other Scrunchy Moms like me!

The Moms who use screen time, but don’t like GMO’s. The Moms who only buy sustainably sourced clothes, but who will get a happy meal once in a while because it’s been a day. The Moms who cloth diaper, but formula feed. And all the other Moms in between.

Somewhere along the way I lost sight of that and got wrapped up in the Influencer rat race.

I know that God put a knack and interest in writing in my heart for a reason. I’m meant to do something with this to carry out His work. So, if I can help even just one Mom with something every few posts, or help ease one Mom’s loneliness, or just give one Mom a laugh, then what does it matter what number the subscribers list reflects?

I know I’ll probably get discouraged again, it’s only natural. But I will continue to post blogs, update my Instagram stories, and put up Instagram shoots even if it’s just for myself and my friends and family. Because it’s something I’m doing for me, and I think that’s important to have as a Mom.

These little guys are a handful, but they keep my heart full 💕

Anyways, thanks for reading! I’ll have a real post up within this next week, hopefully!

Until next time, take care!!

How To Keep The House “In-Law Clean” With Kids (2 Under 2)

Hello, my Gals!

With all we have going on in our lives. Keeping one kid alive and well is a full time job in and of itself, never mind two or more.

And keeping the house clean on top of that just seems like a lot of extra work.

I’m not supposed to be on social media as much these days, so I’ve been on Pinterest a bit to save recipes I’ll definitely make and DIY’s I will absolutely get to, and also to just find some information to accompany the tumbleweeds that now occupy my Mom-brain.

And through my scrolling my Pinterest page has decided I need to see a bunch of perfectly pretty magazine homes because I needed something else to feel inadequate about.

As I was scrolling my feed one day, making sure to keep perfectly still within visual range of the Tyrannosaurus Mess that was my kitchen (it can’t see you if you don’t move…), I found myself wondering how these people do it. Take all these candid pictures of their multiple young kids without even a crumb on the floor or a smudge on the wall.

And then it hit me. I’d found the secret to keeping the house looking Pinter-istine while at the same time keeping two or more kids alive and in line!

Keep reading to find out!

Wait for it…


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Wait fOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOor it…


lol CLICKBAIT! There is no secret. The reality is, those posts most likely are not reality. Just like many Instagram Models, those house pictures are likely photoshopped and staged.

Unless you have an Au Pair or live-in maid, chances are your house is more likely than not doomed to be somewhat of a hot mess for the foreseeable future.

But hear me out!

No matter how much you clean up around the house, if you spend any quality time with them at all, aside from feeding them, bathing them, keeping them clothed, and putting your oxygen mask on in between, chances are your living room looks like this, too:


Now I do try to keep things looking somewhat kempt around here. But I’m sure you all know most of the time cleaning up is like shoveling against the tide, especially the younger your kids are.

Of course I make sure the basics are done, dishes, kitchen and bathrooms sanitary, and living room free of trip hazards. But beyond that is beyond me the majority of the time.

Making my bed, organizing the mail, having closets without junk piled up to the ceiling…all those bells and whistles? You most likely won’t find it at Casa Ruiz.

If I think about it, technically I could keep up with the house. Technically, I could find the time. Technically, I could get more than one load of laundry done (and only washed once because I would remember to switch it over…unlike the musty load that’s currently in my washer from yesterday…).

But if I took all the time I have between feedings, changings, potty trips (attempts), and all that extra stuff, I’d never be able to get any writing done, for myself and for “work.” Not only that, but I’d miss out on all of the book readings, all of the smiles, all of the first time displays of new skills, and just generally time with my babies that I will never, ever, ever get back…we all know babies don’t keep.

This little bean is going to be T W O in a month!! It happens so, so fast, you guys…

Here’s what I think.

IMHO, as long as the house is free of food filth and generally hygienic, pee is cleaned up off the living room floor, and there’s a clear path towards the door in case of emergency, you’re doing just fine.

You might be like me and not be too bothered by clutter, or you might be my Bizzaro and have to have things spotless at all times.

Either way, you got to admit, it takes energy to keep it clean the more kids you have. Energy that can be really hard to come by. Energy that could be better used towards other things.


It might be rough right now, but the house won’t be messy forever. Sooner (much sooner) than you think, those little heckians running around making a pig sty of your home will actually be your little assistants and will be able to help you clean up around the house.

Although, if you start them early enough, you might get a little help around the house sooner than later 😉

One day you’re going to look around at your pristine home and feel your eyes sting with tears, wishing you could look at your living room floor and see a wrinkled tummy time blanket, a million blocks, and yes, even crumbs across it again.

Because that meant your babies were still babies. And you’re going to miss that.

So yes, please do your best to keep it clean. But don’t stress about it being perfect.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it now, because the adage is too, too true: The days are long, but the years are short…

What do you gals think? Am I way wrong and it’s totally possible to keep a museum-level cleanliness of the home, while taking care of the little ones? Or are you with me on this one? What are some hacks you might have to keep things a little less chaotic in the cleaning department? Don’t pull a Gandalf and “Keep your secrets!”

Thanks for reading, my gals! 😘😘

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